On Sunday afternoon I had nothing much to do, I went outside and stood in my balcony gazing left to right. In my neighbourhood park I saw children running around, people chit chatting and couples walking hand in hand. All this brought a smile on my face, and as I gazed further I stopped at a girl sitting all alone by herself ;my smile mellowed to a serious thought. I knew this girl from before she was an example of a self- confident young woman who completely lost faith in herself due to unfortunate circumstances Created my people she loved and trusted.
Like this girl there are many people who get so involved by giving themselves up completely to the respective other and not keeping enough for ourselves.
We are surrounded by people seeking to pull down our confidence, and bring us down to a level where they can control us. I find it a sin beyond redemption when I see people change their natural selves or kill their dreams to suit another. We all seek to control each other by creating dependencies. Men and women play this game with each other all the time. Men do so by reinforcing the myth that women are useless outside the home, in offices and particularly in dealing with money matters. On the other hand women try and control men by reinforcing the myth that men are helpless in the house and totally dependent on wives. People seek to feel better about themselves by thinking less of another, and usually the ones closest to us are the victims of this battle for one- upman- ship.
It takes immense effort to understand this and break through a state where one can develop the kind of confidence that does not look to another for approval, a state where we are our own masters and never feel guilty or regretful about anything; where we have nobody else to thank nor to blame.
It is only natural that we should be our own favourite selves . Then why stop ourselves from imbibing all the qualities that we admire and revere?
Let us allow ourselves to dream big, believe and aspire for it. Let us give up bothering about other people’s judgement, let us chart our own moral and ethical compass. Let us resolve to start walking towards our own dream with a no-nonsense walk, self assured voice and eyes that exude confidence— all these serve to surround us with an invincible winner’s AURA that attract’s all good things. And then who can stop us from becoming our own ” Favourite Person”………..